KROD Match

I had Edwin this month! He is super nice and just has fun doing KROD, we missed him the last 2 months but he is back. Check him out!

Wide Awake for KROD

Here is my Karaoke Ring of Death song :)

2013 is a NEW YEAR!

If you are reading this... WE DIDN'T DIE! The 2 or three times that ya know... the end of the world was suppose to happen in 2012. Just goes to show that no one knows when the world will end. SO let's talk about the things I want this year to hold and you can share with me what you want this year in the comments below :)

So one of the first things of this year I would like to see happen is a typical new year resolution, I want  to loose weight BUT this year is MUCH less than last year because I lost about 45 lbs last year! I only want to loose 15 lbs! Reachable! I want to loose this by mid march at the latest! I am doing body by vi shakes to help me loose those extra pounds. I am ok with where I am now but I don't want to settle for ok, I want to get my body in the best shape I can. Along with the body by vi shakes I am working out as I have been since I started getting back to my pre-baby body.

The second thing I want to do is get out of debt and increase savings. I don't want to owe anyone anything again. Debt is slavery and I do not want to  have it anymore... The only debt I want to have is when we buy a house some day... if we ever decide where to for sure live.

That leads me to my 3rd goal which is move out of my Mother in laws house and hopefully into a house and not another apartment. I want safe neighborhood with a house, it doesn't have to be big but at least have a yard so we can play with my daughter and make it our own for the next little bit of time we are there. I don't want to buy a house because we want to move out of state and we would like it to be easier to make that transition.

Also I would like to start a book club! I love reading now, and if I can't find time to physically read I listen to audible.com books. I listen to books all week at work and it is great! I want to start a book club this year, even if it is small.

Lastly I want to try out new churches and find a good fit for our family where we can be a little involved and trust them. I want to start singing at church again. I miss it.

So in review here are my goals:
1. Loose 15 lbs
2. Get out of Debt/grow savings
3. Move out into a place we can settle
4. Start a book club
5. Find a new home church

I feel my goals are all realistic and obtainable with a little work. I will need encouragement and a few pushes to keep some of these but I think I can do it!

WELCOME TO 2013
Now if I can just not be sick, I can get moving!

Karaoke Ring of Death Catchy songs!

It is that time of the month... No not that time... KARAOKE RING OF DEATH TIME! This month is a really great theme!!! Catchy songs! I am hosting Kanriah from  her blog One Red Wall and I would agree this song is catchy even if you hate it! I almost did it because it was defiantly one of my first thoughts when the theme was decided.

Enjoy watching Kanriah preform "Call Me Maybe" and then check me out on Heather's Blog Musings of a Girl where I sing with one of my best friends "Never Ever Ever Getting Back Together" ... trust me you need to see it! 

What not to say to someone who has Miscarried

Today I was asked to share for a MOPS group (mothers of preschoolers) on what not to say to women who have miscarried. I also added what to say and do to that list. While writing it I cried, but was really happy to write it. After the MOPS group I asked if it was helpful and her answer was "Very much thank you! Everyone was like awe that's great to know". That inspired me to post what I wrote to her and share with others:

What NOT to say to someone who miscarried:

1. How are you?

Sounds weird, I know, because this is the go to question. This question was really hard to digest because honestly I wasn't doing good and I didn't want to talk about it. It was obvious I wasn't doing good and didn't think it was something that needed to be asked.

2. It will get better

This also bothered me because I needed comfort at the time. I needed the freedom to grieve. Hinting  to look ahead made it almost so I couldn't just grieve for my loss. And obviously time usually heals but this doesn't really have a time frame you should just be better by. It's been almost 2 years and I still out of nowhere get extremely sad and just need to cry and remember that I won't ever forget because it's not something you wanted to happen BUT isn't something you want to forget because you will always love what you lost. 

3. I know/imagine how you feel (when the person has never miscarried), and I think I had one.

This actually happened to me. I was in the bathroom at church crying from the song "When everything falls apart" that was played by the worship team. I was trying to pull it together and go back out when a lady had heard about my miscarriage came in hugged me and said I think I had a miscarriage... Ugh really lady? You think? Well I KNOW! and when you KNOW it hurts something fierce so stop trying to make it what it wasn't! That is of course not what I said but thought. And other people said I can imagine how you feel... Well truth is, you CAN NOT unless you have. You can't know what it's like to lose a child and don't try it doesn't help either party.

THINGS TO SAY/DO

1. I am here for you

2. Let me know what you need

3. Bring food (even if that person isn't eating, it might help them eat, or give them something to eat because it is so draining on your whole body physically and emotionally and you don't feel like cooking and need rest)

4. Pray for, and let the other person know that you are thinking about them via card. 

5. Help them clean house and possibly babysit for a bit if they have another child so they can have time to cry without worry of another child and mom and dad can have time together to digest or just cry together.

The biggest thing you can do is keep an open line of communication and let them grieve. It was nice to have people around but only for small periods of time. The reason being is when you have company, you feel obligated to not cry, or be some sort of host and it can make a person really uncomfortable just to break down when that is exactly what they need to do sometimes. When you let yourself cry harder than you ever had because it hurts so bad it also makes you feel bad for the person there, because you know if it was you watching them cry your heart would break and you don't want to make them sad or cry either. UNLESS you are REALLY close friends then it can be nice to have someone else to cry with. 

Bad Blogger!

So I have not been a good blogger this month! AT ALL! Everyday I think I want and need to post on my blog! I need to follow up on my fashion post with pictures! WELL... life happens. Got really sick and really busy... BUT here are a few things I have done while not blogging:

Take my kid to a company picnic

Take my daughter to a pumpkin patch with an awesome jump pillow!

Make a Halloween cake (took 3 days) from scratch... completely!

Take my daughter and the neighbor kids trick-or-treating (my daughters 1st time)

Go to a Halloween party and make my Hurricane Sanday Costume (because my name is Sandy)

Yes I have a bunch of debris in my hair!

Buy Boots!!!

Take my daughter to truck-or-treat with her bff at the automobile museum 

Carve pumpkins

SO as you can tell I have been a little busy. I also NEVER fall asleep when I need to so I am almost always tired and yeah... I hope november is a little less busy so I can catch up on blogging.

Anyone know of a topic calendar? Want to guest post? Want me to guest post? Message on twitter or comment on this post! I will be better this month!

Fashion and Weather

I am a Fall (Autumn) girl. I love the Fall! Let me be more specific because in different parts of the world Fall may have different weather. I love the temperature to get no higher than 73 degrees fahrenheit and don't mind it to get down to 58 degrees fahrenheit. I know, very specific degrees but it's true. I love partly cloudy skies and a slight breeze. Unfortunately where I live fall hasn't really shown up... we had a few days and then it jumped back up to the 80's and 90's YUCK! I want to wear my jeans, boots, long sleeves, jackets, sweaters and scarfs!

Speaking of clothes I have recently been more focused on my style choices and I am SO happy! I actually am skinny enough to dress in skinny jeans and loose shirts! Yes I said loose shirts! You know the sheer shirts that are loose and you still have a silhouette visible that is slimming... You aren't filling out the loose top. I have several of those tops now and also some form fitting sweaters, and a few tops I can't really describe but they are definitely something a few years ago I would have never even thought of as an option especially for myself (teal skinny pants too!). I have a monthly budget for new fall/winter clothes because I don't fit in any of my old stuff and don't have much in the way of clothes for that weather. I can't wait until next month for more shopping! Pictures to come!